In the early to late 2000s, I never really saw the appeal of Gilmore Girls, but after the Netflix revival came out, I thought it was finally time to watch it. At first, I wasn't a huge fan of the show, but it didn't take long for me to fall in love with any and every character. Rory Gilmore is easily the most mentioned character in Gilmore Girls, and everyone seems to idolize her. After the 2016 Netflix revival of Gilmore Girls, countless articles criticizing Rory came out, but I figured I should still give my input on how this infamous character is still good.
Rory Gilmore is a pretty controversial character. She's loved, but she's also hated. She is quite an awful person at times, but she also should be admired. She is human, so of course she has her awful times, but she is also an accomplished character. She graduated as valedictorian from a prestigious high school, got accepted to every college she applied to (all of which were ivy leagues), became the editor in chief at the Yale Daily News, and graduated from Yale, even though she had quite a few bumps in the road. You can love her, or hate her, but you can't deny that she is determined and a go-getter. While some things she has done should be forgotten, Rory Gilmore does leave the audience with some life lessons that are crucial for a successful life.
1. Keep your family close. One of the most heartwarming parts of Gilmore Girls is the mother-daughter relationship between Lorelai and Rory. Their relationship is humorous and full of love. Rory also keeps a relationship with her grandparents, Emily and Richard, even though her mother has problems with them. Sure, Rory does have fallouts with her family members, but she always realizes that having roots with family is one of the key ways to have a successful life. She knows that she can't get anywhere without her family and friends.
2. Don't let others get you down. Rory gets off track in Seasons 5 & 6 and ends up dropping out of Yale because her boyfriend's journalism typhoon father (Mitchum Huntzberger) tells her she couldn't make it as a reporter. Rory eventually realizes that the stay-at-home, event planning lifestyle of her grandmother isn't for her, and decides to enroll in Yale again. If she had never let Huntzberger's words get to her, Rory wouldn't have spent a semester feeling down on herself. No matter what anyone says to you, don't let them get you down. Your words and thoughts are way more valuable than someone else's negative ones.
3. Take risks. Rory's entire education and career is all about taking risks. She took the risk of going to Yale even though during her entire adolescence, she had the dream of going to Harvard. She took risks with her article ideas for the Yale Daily News (including the Life & Death Brigade paper), and then ultimately ended up being the editor. She also rejected a job that she felt wouldn't be her best offer, and although at first ended up regretting it, Rory still got offered an amazing position on a campaign trail. Without risks, you cannot get rewards.
4. Speak your mind. Earlier, I mentioned Rory dropping out of Yale because Mitchum Huntzberger told her she wouldn't make it as a journalist. His main basis for this observation was the fact that she didn't give her opinion enough. You don't ever realize how important your opinion is until you've passed up the opportunity to give it. Your opinion can completely change the outcome of a situation. If you don't speak your mind, you may regret it. So as long as your opinion won't do more harm than good, say it.
5. Give your all with everything you do. Although Rory did have a ton of support (both emotionally and financially) from friends and family, she couldn't have gotten anywhere without her own work ethic. Rory does have a social life, but she still manages to go to all/most of her classes, study frequently, and pass her classes. It's obvious that she cares about her school work and gives it her all. Giving 100% of your effort is the key to succeeding in anything.
6. Don't be a Rory. Okay, this lesson kind of defies this entire blog post, but while Rory has plenty of good qualities, she can also be a pretty awful person. Don't just neglect your family, friends, and love interests. Not only will it set you back in life, it will cause the people around you to dislike you. Don't keep someone tagging along if you don't care about them. Care about others' feelings. Don't be selfish. Overall, be a good person.
These life lessons can help you to succeed in life, but you should also remember to be yourself. You should know what works for you and base your life and success on that. Don't measure your success based on others because we are all on a different life journey and we all have different purposes and missions. Focus on your life and your goals and you will get where you are wanting to go eventually.